As part of my research, I asked both men and women what makes a woman feminine and sexy. I simply asked respondents what they felt made a woman feminine and sexy.

Here are some of their responses:
“She is receptive to a man’s suggestions and plans.”
“The flirting, the teasing, the suggestion.”
“She is comfortable being sexually provocative in her appearance.”
“She falls in love with me after she has a huge orgasm.”
“She is outrageous and sexy on the outside and inside.”
“She isn’t afraid of public affection.”
“She has a voyeuristic side to her.”
“She uses a few explicit words in the heat of passion.”
“She knows what pleases a man and herself.”
“She has a way of carrying herself.”
“She drips with sexuality.”
“She smells good, looks good, and sounds good.”
“She is appreciative of whatever I do.”
“It’s her way of talking to you or looking at you.”
“It’s her smile.”
“She uses her eyes to connect to you.”
“She shows her emotions.”
“She has poise.”
“She laughs freely and loudly and enjoys life.”
“She satisfies her man’s fantasies.”
“She accepts me for who I am.”
“She doesn’t take life too seriously.”
“She’s a little bit playful.”
“She is confident in her beauty.”
“She is beautiful and exciting to look at.”
“She is a ferocious feline in bed.”
“She tells me what she likes [sexually].”
“She screams [during sex].”
“She gets excited [sexually].”
“She never pushes me away [sexually].”
“She never uses sex for power.”
“She is shy and naïve outside; inside, she has a huge sexual desire.”
“She is sexual, sensual, and erotic.”
“Her clothing slightly reveals some of her body.”
“She gives a hint of what lies underneath her clothes.”
“She is smolderingly sexy, but always classy, in public.”
“She is responsive to the slightest touch.”
“She easily reaches multiple orgasms.”
“She is extremely oral, both giving and receiving.”
“She has highly responsive nipples.”

Adapted from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (published by Hunter House)