In the World Cup soccer situation, I would advise the woman to do nothing, since there is nothing you can do to get a real World Cup fan to pay attention to you. Instead of doing something (which the geisha knows is very masculine), as the Older Sister American Geisha, I would advise the woman to be (which the geisha knows is very feminine).

• Go to the pub or to the game with a girlfriend.
• Participate very femininely in this testosterone-soaked environment, by doing very little cheering or reacting to the game. If you’ve made yourself what I call Geisha Attractive by maximizing your beauty and your clothes and by expressing a classy-but-sexy femininity.
• Then all you have to do is to put yourself in a place when he will be able to notice you. You then do nothing. You are calm, comfortable, and somewhat attentive to the game, but more to your girlfriend.
• Occasionally, you might pass near him as you go the lady’s room. Or you may catch his eye for a short moment. Most of the time you are simply beautiful, feminine, and attentive. He will continue to be absorbed by the game.
• When the game ends or halftime comes, he (and others) will remember this beautiful, feminine, attentive woman who was there during the game.
• Expect a flood of men, including him, to pay attention to you. Of course, you knew. An American Geisha doesn’t have to do anything. If she will just be attentively attractive, she will attract men’s attention.

No one really wants to know the whole truth about why the significant other wants to break up with them. It is also hard to disclose the full truth about why you want to break up. So, don’t tell the whole truth. Instead, be kind and take on the full responsibility for the breakup, by saying something like,

• “I’m just not in love any more. I’m sorry. Probably we should have ended this earlier, even. It’s been a while. We both need to move on and accept that it’s just no longer working.”
• “I have a Peter Pan syndrome. I don’t want to grow up and to have responsibility for a wife or family, children.”

What do the following traditional breakup lines really mean?
1. “I need my space”: Since I’m no longer attracted to you, I want as much space between us as possible.
2. “It’s me, not you”: It really is you, at least is much as one or both of us has changed. And I am no longer attracted to you.
3. “We’re better off as friends”: I’m better off if we never talk to or see one another again.

How should people tackle questions from significant other?
1. “Is there someone else?”: Always say, “No,” otherwise a whole new discussion comes up: “Who is she?” Just say: “There’s no one else. I’m just no longer in love, not into the relationship at all anymore. I’m sorry.”
2. “What did I do?”: Nothing. I did it. I changed. I just don’t want the relationship any longer. I am sorry.