1. Unconventional engagement party: Take a short “sugarmoon” (similar to honeymoon wedding) trip together, instead of having an engagement party with family and friends. Off by yourselves away from meddling parents and friends, plan and dream together about your upcoming wedding.
2. Create unconventional engagement ring for a groom-to-be: she wears an engagement ring, and he gets one too, so people know that he is not available. There is no such ring for men, but create your own simple gold, platinum or silver ring as a male engagement ring.
3. Unconventional dress rehearsal: the two of you two dress up in your wedding clothes and go to your favorite fancy hotel/bar for a drink, telling the waiter you just got married. Have the waiter bring champagne for both of you, and toast your marriage, probably with a very attentive audience.

Do you have any other suggestion? Do you have your own bachelorette party to talk about?

Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, from Hunter House, in October 2006. Visit her website at www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com

1. Any student loans? If any, then how much and when to expect to pay off
2. Any credit card debts? If then, how much and when to expect to pay off
3. Ex’s pictures and letters; what to do with them?
4. How often do you want to visit your family/parents/siblings? Do you expect me to go to your family functions?
5. Cat vs. dog lovers, or pet lover vs. non-pet lover: Will we live with pets
6. How much do we get free time to be totally alone a week? Free time to go out with girlfriends, go to a book store, the sauna, something that I used to do before the wedding?
Do you want to add more to this list? Do you have something you actually asked before you said, “I do"?

Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, from Hunter House, in October 2006. Wisit her website at www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com

After the one-night stand:
“I feel guilty about the last night. I made a big mistake. I was a bad boy. But I am not really a bad boy. I want to go back to being a good boy. I can’t forgive myself right now. I wanted to sleep with you but now I feel enormous guilt about how I used my sexual excitement to just get your attention. With this kind of guilt I can’t see you anymore. I wanted to be a good guy and respect you. But I became a bad boy. Sorry. Bye bye.”

After the long-term relationship:
“I’m just not in love any more. I’m sorry. Probably we should have ended this earlier, even. It’s been a while. We both need to move on and accept that it’s just no longer working.”

After a one-week tryst:
“You have fucked me nearly to death, and it’s been great fun. I just have to go back to my real life now, but this has been a week I’ll never forget. You are the sexiest, most beautiful woman I’ve ever know. It was crazy! But now it’s over.”

Not only Latin women, but also Korean and Japanese women, are terrified during World Cup. Many will suffer feelings of abandonment, as their men turn their attention to their first love, soccer and the World Cup games. But this is just a temporary affair with no long-lasting effect on the marriages/relationships

Here is what women can do:

• Let him watch games. It just happens once every 4 years. Let him enjoy what he wants to do. Even wearing sexy lingerie and standing front of the TV screen while he is into the game won’t excite him. For him at this time, World Cup soccer is better than sex, so give up.
• Don’t ask which one he would choose if he really loves you, such as “World Cup soccer games or me?” He’ll choose soccer. Every time. You would, too, if you were a Latin, Korean or Japanese man.
• Take your window of opportunity for a girls nightout without guilt, since it happens only once every four years. This is a perfect time you go out with girlfriends and have fun while your man is having his own fun.
• Be a good woman who gives your man the space and freedom to enjoy his hobby, World Cup soccer. Make him feel a real man while you let him do what he wants. Get a written agreement such as “When the game is over, I (your man) will do whatever you want me to do.” He will be your sex slave or labor slave after the games over.
• Before you and your girlfriends (other soccer widows) go out, fill the kitchen with his favorite self-service food, snacks, and drinks.

Quiz 1

You’ve just met a guy at a bookstore, shared coffees for fifteen minutes or so; then he asked you to go out to dinner next week. You say:

1. Because you’d like to get to know him a little better, you say “yes” and arrange to drive yourself to and from the restaurant.

2. Because you’d like to get to know him a little better before deciding on a real date with him or not, you say “no” and suggest that maybe you could have coffee again next week at the same bookstore, same time.

3. Because you’d like to get to know him better, you say “yes” and wait for him to suggest the specifics of him picking you up and where you’ll dine.

Answer: # 2. You can’t know enough about a man in fifteen minutes to decide if he is a “Good Man” for you, so don’t make a real date. The American Geisha does not date, have sex with or marry a man unless he is a “Good Man.” Even to have an intuitive idea of whether he could be good for you---and worth at least one date---you’ll need more time with him in that coffee shop next week. (By the way, always drive your own car on early dates, for personal security.)



Quiz 2
A man who is considering whether he might want to marry you is probably interested most in this aspect of who you are:

1. Your job
2. Your home
3. Your car
4. Your money
5. Your femininity

Answer: # 5, your femininity. Much research has shown that men are not very interested in #’s 1-4 in choosing a wife. (Women are more interested in those aspects of a person than men are.) I believe that what men most miss in many women is an expression of their sexy femininity. Men don’t so much care what you have (a job, a home, a car, money), but how you are (sexy and feminine).