With a happy, serene smile on my face and a sleepy, satiated look in my eyes, let me make clear to you, from my own earth-shattering personal experience and from my conclusive research, that the existence of the G-spot and female ejaculation is settled physiological fact, a discovery that can lead to the most intense pleasure and orgasmic release you will ever experience in your life! If that’s not worth a heartfelt “Gee!” (as in “gee”-spot) I don’t know what is.

In this blog, you will find and learn to stimulate your G-spot and will become that most feminine and sexual of American Geisha: a female ejaculator, a “shooter.”

Let me start by clearing up a commonly held misconception: The ejaculate you forcefully emit is a clear, somewhat sweet liquid that I call Gräfenberg Juice (after the doctor who clinically identified the G-spot). It is definitely not urine or even remotely related to urine.

The G-spot and female ejaculation really do exist. I know. I’m a female ejaculator, a “shooter.” If you, dear Younger Sister, are among those who are still unconvinced of this physio-sexual reality, this will be a life-changing chapter for you. Your sex life will never be the same, my oh so fortunate reader. I want to clearly convey to you my experience with female ejaculation, hoping that as I express myself you will both recognize the reality of this phenomenon and begin to imagine the possibilities for yourself. Here I tell my story in an open, explicit way that makes you feel like you are there, almost experiencing my ejaculation yourself.
Sometimes my husband, Rich, and I will be making love without any intention of my ejaculating, and then the idea will strike one of us. We’ll start to adjust our lovemaking to go in the direction of having a “shooting” orgasm, as we usually call it. Other times Rich might say, “Tonight is your night, baby. I want you to shoot into my mouth.” That excites me. But we never put pressure on me to ejaculate. It’s perfectly okay with both of us if I don’t. A lot of trust is involved in a G-spot, shooting orgasm, especially when you are doing it the first few times. You have to trust yourself that you can do it (but with no pressure). You have to trust that your partner will not have a negative reaction. At one point you’ll have to trust that the familiar feelings of needing to pee are in fact the feelings of imminent female ejaculation, not at all related to peeing.

I adapted this part from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (published by Hunter House). Due to Myspace policy (too graphic with x-rated), I can’t post any further about “A Most Outrageous Description of My Ejaculation…. But you can find more about from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha.

As part of my research, I asked both men and women what makes a woman feminine and sexy. I simply asked respondents what they felt made a woman feminine and sexy.

Here are some of their responses:
“She is receptive to a man’s suggestions and plans.”
“The flirting, the teasing, the suggestion.”
“She is comfortable being sexually provocative in her appearance.”
“She falls in love with me after she has a huge orgasm.”
“She is outrageous and sexy on the outside and inside.”
“She isn’t afraid of public affection.”
“She has a voyeuristic side to her.”
“She uses a few explicit words in the heat of passion.”
“She knows what pleases a man and herself.”
“She has a way of carrying herself.”
“She drips with sexuality.”
“She smells good, looks good, and sounds good.”
“She is appreciative of whatever I do.”
“It’s her way of talking to you or looking at you.”
“It’s her smile.”
“She uses her eyes to connect to you.”
“She shows her emotions.”
“She has poise.”
“She laughs freely and loudly and enjoys life.”
“She satisfies her man’s fantasies.”
“She accepts me for who I am.”
“She doesn’t take life too seriously.”
“She’s a little bit playful.”
“She is confident in her beauty.”
“She is beautiful and exciting to look at.”
“She is a ferocious feline in bed.”
“She tells me what she likes [sexually].”
“She screams [during sex].”
“She gets excited [sexually].”
“She never pushes me away [sexually].”
“She never uses sex for power.”
“She is shy and naïve outside; inside, she has a huge sexual desire.”
“She is sexual, sensual, and erotic.”
“Her clothing slightly reveals some of her body.”
“She gives a hint of what lies underneath her clothes.”
“She is smolderingly sexy, but always classy, in public.”
“She is responsive to the slightest touch.”
“She easily reaches multiple orgasms.”
“She is extremely oral, both giving and receiving.”
“She has highly responsive nipples.”

Adapted from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (published by Hunter House)

You may imagine that agreeing to have sex before you have a monogamous commitment from a man could lead to the commitment you seek. Wrong. If he gets to have sex with you before commitment, you lose some of your power to get him to commit. After all, why should he commit further if he’s already having sex with you? Yes, you may answer, but with sexual intimacy he’ll fall for me even more. Wrong again. With sexual intimacy before commitment, all you know is that his manhood is in love with your vagina. You are beautiful, feminine, and have a gorgeous, fully shaved vagina. Of course, he’s in love with your sexual organs! What man wouldn’t be? But you want his love for you to come before his love for your sexual organs.

By the way, “instant commitments” don’t count. If you’ve teased him to the point of nakedness or of being only an undergarment away from nakedness, and then ask him, “You do love me, don’t you?” do not be fooled by the answer “Of course I do.” That is his manhood talking. At this point his brain has been kidnapped by his throbbing manhood. All his brain blood now resides in his swollen one, and his is totally in charge of what his mouth says. “Of course I love you” means “Of course I love your sexual organs.” If you let a Good Man have sex with you before commitment, you risk losing that Good Man because you were too easy; you weren’t selective or demanding enough.

Be patient. Get the commitment first. You need to have sex only with a committed Good Man.

It may take you several weeks or several months of dating a man to determine whether you want to have sex with him. This is not an unreasonable time frame for such an important decision. Again, it is totally appropriate to share your thoughts with a man regarding your qualifications of a Good Man and your fundamental needs. Also discuss how he sees your relationship, both now and in the future. If you decide that sex with this man is appropriate for you, then mutually commit to monogamy and go for it. If he is unwilling to commit to monogamy, do not agree to have sex with him.

Adapted from "Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man." (published by Hunter House)

From the earliest days of dating your Good Man through years of marriage to him, it is inherent in his being a man that he constantly risks rejection by you. Early in the relationship you may turn down a date, not want to go to the restaurant or movie he suggests, refuse his good-night kiss (even on the third date, as I foolishly did to the man I later married), not let him come into your home, not want to have sex. Your Good Man has the courage to keep taking the initiative with you, proposing things to you that you might turn down, thereby rejecting him in the process of rejecting his idea or suggestion.

Respect your Good Man’s courage in the lifelong journey of risk-taking that he embarks on with you. It takes balls to be a man. Real nerve. Respect that. Even after you are together, even married, his risk-taking continues. A man’s life always involves a risk of rejection. It’s bad enough that he faces that risk at work (as do you, too, of course), but he also faces it at home, even from you, his Good Woman who loves and respects him.

At work, a man may risk rejection (of an idea, a project, a request, a report, an opinion) that could negatively impact how he feels about himself as a man. However, a man’s greatest psychological vulnerability is not the risk of rejection at work, but the risk of rejection at home, from you, his Good Woman. A man’s ego is most vulnerable when, after you have established a sexual relationship, he tells you that he wants to make love to you. At that point you hold his ego in your hands.

If you refuse his invitation or request for sex, you may think that you refused for some objective reason, such as the late hour, illness, chores that need doing, your own distractedness, not enough time, hunger, the baby’s diaper, not in the mood, or a hundred other reasonable scenarios that preclude lovemaking at that moment. If he were to ask why, you’d say, “Nothing personal; it’s just ___________ (fill in the blank).” You probably wouldn’t see it as a big deal. “We’ll make love later,” you’d probably think, if you thought about it any more at all.

“Wait a minute,” you might think, “I’m tired/it’s late/we have to leave in twenty minutes. That’s why I said no. I’m not rejecting him or his rejection. I love him and I love his manhood.”

For him, when you refused his (brave, risky) offer to make love, you refused his manhood. Translation: You refused him as a man. He feels bad about himself as a man, refused by his girlfriend, fiancée, or wife, rejected by the woman he loves, his manhood rejected by the woman he loves, his manhood refused and rejected.

Py Kim Conant, the author of Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, Hunter House Publishers. Looking for relationship, dating and sex tips? Visit Py’s website at http://www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com

No matter how you’ve met a man, the first thing you want to do is try to ascertain whether he has the potential to be a Good Man for you. If he seems to have that potential, you certainly would be open to seeing him further. If he seems not to have that potential, it is best not to see him further, unless seeing him further would open good social networking opportunities for you. Remember always to be frank and honest and nonmanipulative and kind to the men you encounter while dating. Don’t lead on an inappropriate man once you realize he is not a candidate for a longer-term relationship with you.

You must also choose carefully from among the men you attract. You waste time dating a man who has little or no potential to be a Good Man for you. Not only that, but your image may suffer from dating inappropriate men, perhaps discouraging other men from getting to know you, possibly including a man who may have been right for you.

Let’s say that a man you meet at a bookstore coffee shop asks you out for dinner. According to whether or not he seems to have some Good Man potential, you could answer him in one of several ways.

If you judge quickly (or after a forty-five-minute chat) that there is either no potential or so little potential that you do not want to invest any further time, you want to discourage him. You might respond, “Thank you, that’s sweet of you. But I can’t.” If he persists (which he probably won’t), say truthfully, “I’m just not available right now. It’s been nice to meet and to talk with you.” Do not touch him and do not be your most fun, likable self. After all, you want to discourage him.