The first few dates seem always exciting and nervous with showing your best manner and characters…be polite to each other, follow the rules,…play games by the dating and relationship rules. But many times people don’t get the second date, or no more than three times going out. I always believe that meeting a new people is easier than keeping the relationship for long and fresh. Also I believe that getting married is much easier than staying married happily.

Either a woman (or a man) should be looking for information to help her/him to decide whether this particular date is what I call a "Good Man" (or "Good Woman"). This Good person has Four Fundamental Characteristics:

1. good values
2. awareness of what’s happening around them
3. a nice personality
4. happy and optimistic
The first impression applies to the first three dates. After the third date you know how to filter the person as a keeper.

What if your date tells you about her bad breakup with her ex, what if your date tells you about her mental problem, talks about her career problems. Look at the following situations that I would find some red flags based on the above characteristics:

• Forgot wallet = not very conscious and aware; perhaps careless
• Reveals dark secret = unhappy; not conscious of inappropriateness
• Says something offensive = bad values or not a nice person
In any of the above three situations, I could easily imagine that a woman's intuition might say, "I don't think this is worth pursuing." Always at least listen to and consider your intuition in making a decision about further dating.

I’m getting mentally excited at the mere prospect of writing these next paragraphs about a plan to help you get your weight under control and keep it under control. I feel so good to be at a beautiful weight (and to have stayed there for six years). I remember how bad I felt when I was fat. My excitement, though, is because I know that the American Geisha Weight Loss and Maintenance Plan (the “Geisha Plan”) can work for you, too.

Notice that I wrote in the last sentence that the plan can work for you. I didn’t write that it will work for you. Below, in bold type, appear two affirmations that I want you to read aloud enthusiastically and to believe totally. These statements, expressed sincerely and consistently, will begin to guarantee your success in reaching your most beautiful weight. Read them aloud:

* I want more than anything to be in love with and married to a Good Man within twelve to eighteen months.
* I care more about love and marriage to a Good Man than I do about food.

Right now, copy these two affirmations onto a piece of paper. It won’t take long; they’re short. Write neatly. Do it now! Thank you. Now post the affirmations on your refrigerator. Now and for years after you have lost your excess weight and married the Good Man you love, you will keep these affirmations on the fridge as a reminder and an inspiration to continue to stay conscious of your desire to maintain a beautiful weight.

For my married Younger Sisters or those in committed relationships, I suggest the following two, slightly revised affirmations. Read them aloud. Write them down on a piece of paper and post them on your fridge:

* I want more than anything to revitalize my marriage (relationship), beginning now.
* I care more about love and my marriage (relationship) than I do about food.

Py Kim Conant, Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man, Hunter House, October 28, 2006. Looking for relationship, dating and sex tips? Visit Py’s website at www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com

Do you have any special day to celebrate for your man such as his birthday? Or do you want to create your own day to expresses your love to your man? Do you want to pretend you are an American Geisha for one day? With my five tips, you can pretend you are going to celebrate in a sexy American Geisha’s way, a day you can worship your man. Surprise him and tell him that you want to be an American Geisha for him one day. Here are five romantic things you can do to please your man in and out of bed to celebrate.

• The secrets of female ejaculation: Rent the Japanese movie “Warm Water Under the Red Bridge,” in which a female ejaculator drives her man sexually crazy. While watching the video, ask him about how he thinks about female ejaculation and tell him that you want to experience this exciting moment.

• A hairless vagina: Shave your vagina/pubic hair totally naked or into a heart shape. Why does your hairless vagina make your man crazy about you and make him want you more? Men are hairier than women and often have quite hairy bodies. Heavy body hair is a masculine, yang, trait, not a feminine, yin, trait. Your now nearly hairless body is, generally, in stark contrast to the man’s larger, hairier body. Opposites do attract. Your man will love this difference and will feel himself to be a more masculine man, large and relatively hairy, while seeing you as a nearly hairless, feminine woman.

• Take your man’s special day order of what he wants in and out of bed. Not with kimono, but with an apron covering your bottom without underwear or bra, ask him what he wants from you in and out of bed. You might want to watch the movie “Memoirs of a Geisha” and get inspired by the Japanese geisha’s beauty, and sexy femininity.

• Buy one gift for both yourself and him: a vibrator or sexy silk lingerie or something you can use for sex. Wrap it nicely and give it to him with a nice note, saying, “Today is your night. I want to be your American Geisha. Love, Me.”

• Give credit to him verbally for your orgasm: Scream and come hard. Make him feel like a real man.

How would you celebrate your man tonight?

Here is one more interview article with Dr. Ava Cadell, a sexologist. This time you will find out what both men and women can learn out of my book, “Sex Secrets of an American Geisha.”

Py Kim Conant
Py Kim Conant describes herself as the first American Geisha. By that she means that she used the relationship wisdom of the Japanese geisha in her own pursuit of love and marriage. And she offers that wisdom that worked so well for her to all women through her book, “Sex Secrets of an American Geisha: How to Attract, Satisfy, and Keep Your Man.”


Dr. Ava: What inspired you to write “Sex Secrets of an American Geisha”?
Py: I was first inspired to write this book almost five years ago, when several of my single girlfriends asked me for tips about how they, too, could find and marry a Good Man. I thought that if I could help them, perhaps I could help even more women by writing a book. I had already published three books in Korean, so it didn’t seem too outrageous that I might able to publish one in English. So, I started writing and began to do some research, including starting a Korean Wives Club for Korean women married to American men. Part of my research was to read about the Japanese geisha and her Korean counterpart, the kisaeng. Over time I came to realize that much of what I was writing about could be related to what I came to call the Asian Geisha. The popularity of the Memoirs of a Geisha book and the impending movie further convinced me that I could reach lots of women with my helpful tips about sex and getting married if I positioned myself as the first American Geisha Older Sister, offering my suggestions to my readers (my Younger Sisters) so that they, too, could become American Geisha in pursuit of love and marriage in their lives.


Dr. Ava : What can women learn from your book?
Py: “Sex Secrets of an American Geisha” is meant to be a practical, how-to book to help a Western/American woman to use an Asian Geisha approach to finding love and marriage. Specifically, women can learn how to:
• Find a good man to date and marry
• “Be” and attract men
• Become more beautiful and feminine
• Become a feminine-ist, as well as a feminist
• For married women, how to add spark to their marriages
• Avoid all manipulation of men in their lives
Dr. Ava : How can men benefit from your book?
Py: Women should give “Sex Secrets of an American Geisha” to their Good Men, so the men can more completely understand their Good Women dates, fiancées, and wives. It will also help the men to know what the American Geisha women are looking for a man.
Dr. Ava : Where can we find out more and purchase your book?
Py: At Amazon.com and nine other stores. Click Here to Purchase

Dr. Ava : Find more details about Py and her book at www.AmericanGeishaHouse.com, Py Kim's MySpace , and click here to reach a longer description of Conant’s book

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