After the one-night stand:
“I feel guilty about the last night. I made a big mistake. I was a bad boy. But I am not really a bad boy. I want to go back to being a good boy. I can’t forgive myself right now. I wanted to sleep with you but now I feel enormous guilt about how I used my sexual excitement to just get your attention. With this kind of guilt I can’t see you anymore. I wanted to be a good guy and respect you. But I became a bad boy. Sorry. Bye bye.”

After the long-term relationship:
“I’m just not in love any more. I’m sorry. Probably we should have ended this earlier, even. It’s been a while. We both need to move on and accept that it’s just no longer working.”

After a one-week tryst:
“You have fucked me nearly to death, and it’s been great fun. I just have to go back to my real life now, but this has been a week I’ll never forget. You are the sexiest, most beautiful woman I’ve ever know. It was crazy! But now it’s over.”

Not only Latin women, but also Korean and Japanese women, are terrified during World Cup. Many will suffer feelings of abandonment, as their men turn their attention to their first love, soccer and the World Cup games. But this is just a temporary affair with no long-lasting effect on the marriages/relationships

Here is what women can do:

• Let him watch games. It just happens once every 4 years. Let him enjoy what he wants to do. Even wearing sexy lingerie and standing front of the TV screen while he is into the game won’t excite him. For him at this time, World Cup soccer is better than sex, so give up.
• Don’t ask which one he would choose if he really loves you, such as “World Cup soccer games or me?” He’ll choose soccer. Every time. You would, too, if you were a Latin, Korean or Japanese man.
• Take your window of opportunity for a girls nightout without guilt, since it happens only once every four years. This is a perfect time you go out with girlfriends and have fun while your man is having his own fun.
• Be a good woman who gives your man the space and freedom to enjoy his hobby, World Cup soccer. Make him feel a real man while you let him do what he wants. Get a written agreement such as “When the game is over, I (your man) will do whatever you want me to do.” He will be your sex slave or labor slave after the games over.
• Before you and your girlfriends (other soccer widows) go out, fill the kitchen with his favorite self-service food, snacks, and drinks.

Quiz 1

You’ve just met a guy at a bookstore, shared coffees for fifteen minutes or so; then he asked you to go out to dinner next week. You say:

1. Because you’d like to get to know him a little better, you say “yes” and arrange to drive yourself to and from the restaurant.

2. Because you’d like to get to know him a little better before deciding on a real date with him or not, you say “no” and suggest that maybe you could have coffee again next week at the same bookstore, same time.

3. Because you’d like to get to know him better, you say “yes” and wait for him to suggest the specifics of him picking you up and where you’ll dine.

Answer: # 2. You can’t know enough about a man in fifteen minutes to decide if he is a “Good Man” for you, so don’t make a real date. The American Geisha does not date, have sex with or marry a man unless he is a “Good Man.” Even to have an intuitive idea of whether he could be good for you---and worth at least one date---you’ll need more time with him in that coffee shop next week. (By the way, always drive your own car on early dates, for personal security.)



Quiz 2
A man who is considering whether he might want to marry you is probably interested most in this aspect of who you are:

1. Your job
2. Your home
3. Your car
4. Your money
5. Your femininity

Answer: # 5, your femininity. Much research has shown that men are not very interested in #’s 1-4 in choosing a wife. (Women are more interested in those aspects of a person than men are.) I believe that what men most miss in many women is an expression of their sexy femininity. Men don’t so much care what you have (a job, a home, a car, money), but how you are (sexy and feminine).

In the World Cup soccer situation, I would advise the woman to do nothing, since there is nothing you can do to get a real World Cup fan to pay attention to you. Instead of doing something (which the geisha knows is very masculine), as the Older Sister American Geisha, I would advise the woman to be (which the geisha knows is very feminine).

• Go to the pub or to the game with a girlfriend.
• Participate very femininely in this testosterone-soaked environment, by doing very little cheering or reacting to the game. If you’ve made yourself what I call Geisha Attractive by maximizing your beauty and your clothes and by expressing a classy-but-sexy femininity.
• Then all you have to do is to put yourself in a place when he will be able to notice you. You then do nothing. You are calm, comfortable, and somewhat attentive to the game, but more to your girlfriend.
• Occasionally, you might pass near him as you go the lady’s room. Or you may catch his eye for a short moment. Most of the time you are simply beautiful, feminine, and attentive. He will continue to be absorbed by the game.
• When the game ends or halftime comes, he (and others) will remember this beautiful, feminine, attentive woman who was there during the game.
• Expect a flood of men, including him, to pay attention to you. Of course, you knew. An American Geisha doesn’t have to do anything. If she will just be attentively attractive, she will attract men’s attention.

No one really wants to know the whole truth about why the significant other wants to break up with them. It is also hard to disclose the full truth about why you want to break up. So, don’t tell the whole truth. Instead, be kind and take on the full responsibility for the breakup, by saying something like,

• “I’m just not in love any more. I’m sorry. Probably we should have ended this earlier, even. It’s been a while. We both need to move on and accept that it’s just no longer working.”
• “I have a Peter Pan syndrome. I don’t want to grow up and to have responsibility for a wife or family, children.”

What do the following traditional breakup lines really mean?
1. “I need my space”: Since I’m no longer attracted to you, I want as much space between us as possible.
2. “It’s me, not you”: It really is you, at least is much as one or both of us has changed. And I am no longer attracted to you.
3. “We’re better off as friends”: I’m better off if we never talk to or see one another again.

How should people tackle questions from significant other?
1. “Is there someone else?”: Always say, “No,” otherwise a whole new discussion comes up: “Who is she?” Just say: “There’s no one else. I’m just no longer in love, not into the relationship at all anymore. I’m sorry.”
2. “What did I do?”: Nothing. I did it. I changed. I just don’t want the relationship any longer. I am sorry.